I had an unexpected visit from my best friend Sam today because of her minor LQ (Lover's Quarrel) with her boyfriend the other day. She asked me to hang-out with her a bit. Since I've been meaning to go to the mall last weekend but didn't get a chance to (I needed to return a couple of items I bought earlier) I convinced her to go to Del Amo with me to return my stuff and then maybe unwind at Starbucks afterwards so we can talk about whatever was bothering her in the last couple of days.
The last time I talked to her was when she called crying over the phone about her LQ. I'm actually surprised that they still haven't patched things up yet! I could not help but feel helpless and frustrated for both my best friend and boyfriend because I know there's nothing much I can do for both of them, except offer them "consolation" if they need it because I know butting in can or will make it worse.
As a rule in my past relationships, I try to never let a misunderstanding last a day. Much like if we had an argument, I make sure to not let it drop until there is some kind of compromise me and my partner reached upon.--- and it works most of the time too. I seldom have LQ's that way. But I'm also inclined to think that minor riffs between partners, vary and are a case-to-case basis. I'm hoping that they can patch things up sooner-- the better!
Our hour or so chit-chat at Starbucks should have lifted a little of her burden, even though she practically told me the same stuff from 2 days ago over the phone. At one point of our conversation over cafe lattes, she asked me why am I not giving her any advice on what to do next. I gave her a "safe" answer saying that I was there for her... or for him to listen and not to meddle in, because it is "their" relationship and not mine.
There are only so many things a friend can do... and this is certainly not one of them.... honestly, it's a lot harder when both of the involved parties are your friends... it's like being caught between two big colliding rocks!
The last time I talked to her was when she called crying over the phone about her LQ. I'm actually surprised that they still haven't patched things up yet! I could not help but feel helpless and frustrated for both my best friend and boyfriend because I know there's nothing much I can do for both of them, except offer them "consolation" if they need it because I know butting in can or will make it worse.
As a rule in my past relationships, I try to never let a misunderstanding last a day. Much like if we had an argument, I make sure to not let it drop until there is some kind of compromise me and my partner reached upon.--- and it works most of the time too. I seldom have LQ's that way. But I'm also inclined to think that minor riffs between partners, vary and are a case-to-case basis. I'm hoping that they can patch things up sooner-- the better!
Our hour or so chit-chat at Starbucks should have lifted a little of her burden, even though she practically told me the same stuff from 2 days ago over the phone. At one point of our conversation over cafe lattes, she asked me why am I not giving her any advice on what to do next. I gave her a "safe" answer saying that I was there for her... or for him to listen and not to meddle in, because it is "their" relationship and not mine.
There are only so many things a friend can do... and this is certainly not one of them.... honestly, it's a lot harder when both of the involved parties are your friends... it's like being caught between two big colliding rocks!
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