I must apologize for being rather quiet the last couple of days... I've been depressed since Friday night after my meeting with "GUY". Even though, I had some help (and moral support) from COMMON FRIEND who agreed to come with me.
Earlier that day, I had doubts about going through with my plans (about confronting GUY) but I cannot and do not want to lie and cover up for him anymore, BABE is a friend of mine and as a woman I wouldn't want any friend of mine to be an accessory to covering for a two timing b-----d GUY turned out to be. (Excuse my language, but b-----d fits GUY to a T right now.) Bunny and Sam tried to talk me out of it, said it wasn't any of my business (yep, it's totally opposite what they told me the other day... but I understand --- that they only wanted me to be on the safe side.)
I told them, I wasn't going to do anything that drastic yet... the worst I could do right now is not talk to GUY anymore and just go straight to BABE and tattle tale EVERYTHING (COMMON FRIEND has all the evidence in his cell and also his personal account with both GUY and BABE 2, so I had major backup on everything that serves proof.) but as I am also a friend of GUY, I want him to have the benefit of the doubt and a one time chance to clean up his "mess"
After I've talked to the girls, 30 minutes or so later Oli calls! (I knew my girlfriends are worried but I never thought they are THAT worried to even call Oli to talk to me! (LOL!) Considering the fact that Oli and I are not that close anymore as we were before. (due to time and distance factors in the last decade or so) We are still in the process of getting back to where we left off I guess. It will still take time of course.) I had the notion that he's going to discourage me too but he didn't... he was more neutral--- weighed out the pros and cons with me which I already mentally did days before Friday came.
He also said, I was trying to be a "good friend" --- honest and brave even --- but I should be forewarned that as good as my intentions are, I am also in the verge of losing a friend or both friends in the process.... not to mention the cause of their break-up. He's right and I knew that... I guess it's the price I'm going to have to live with for now or if not for the rest of my life. (It can't get any more dramatic than this!) Oli really wanted to come over but he was in a middle of a shift when he called me during a break. It's going to be a long drive (about 350+ miles ) and I rather let him rest than doing so. But our talk made me a little better if not completely. It affirmed my resolve even more than before. THANKS FRIEND!
COMMON FRIEND and I arrived at our meeting place an hour early then scheduled. COMMON FRIEND jokingly said if I change my mind, I still have an hour left to back out! (LOL!) Honestly, I'm not really scared of talking to GUY face-to-face about it.... BUT I AM SCARED of losing friends and that applies to anybody I consider a friend. I'm nervous yes! (I admit drinking black coffee while waiting might have magnified my nervousness a bit.) who wouldn't be nervous.
GUY arrived early with a big smile on his face. (I saw total innocence. He probably thought this is just one of those casual hello's from friends... I totally wished it was...) After the usual greetings and literally asking what's up with you? Blah... blah... blah... I decided to start with the subject at hand --- cold and fast as much as possible so I could assess the quickest initial reaction whether it be facial or verbal before he lies or possibly deny it altogether.
My first "attack" was when I asked him "How much do you love BABE?" GUY laughed and answered that he loves her very much and then a split-second later suddenly had this uneasy questioning look on his face. COMMON FRIEND goes ahead and passes him his phone and GUY saw "everything" we had on him. His face gradually changed from normal to worried and then fear when he saw the video of him and BABE 2 kissing in broad daylight taken most recently (the a couple of days before Friday I think, COMMON FRIEND had impeccable timing getting evidence LOL! I would have thought he stalked GUY a lot. But I guess that an advantage for me at that moment )
GUY was in shock--- horrified even... at least his eyes told the truth because he denied he has / had a standing relationship with BABE 2, he admitted they're friends. Of course, COMMON FRIEND and I were skeptical and COMMON FRIEND even sarcastically joked about GUY and BABE 2 being SEXUALLY ATTACHED FRIENDS which was already an understatement to us considering his initial reaction and we haven't really directly said anything yet. We just showed him what we know.
And if that wasn't enough confirmation from GUY... luck was on our side because after the shock settled itself out, and if I may add, denying it... he asked us "How much does BABE know?" I told him BABE doesn't know anything yet BUT if nothing good comes out of my being there, talking to him first... I'LL DEFINITELY TELL ON HIM.... SERIOUSLY. No IF's... No BUT's.... NO NOTHING!
I knew he was annoyed at us for "meddling"... probably mad too but he probably thought the odds are against him. "So what do you expect me to do?" GUY had the nerve to ask! (GRRRRRRRR!!!!) I told him, that's his decision, the bottom line, HE HAS TO STOP.
I don't really care if he breaks up with BABE... because in my opinion GUY doesn't deserve BABE. As far as I know, BABE has her "faults" including being the jealous type" and maybe being demanding at times but we all know that's normal in any kind of relationship but it's inexcusable to "fiddle" back and forth two women much like choosing ice cream flavors at an ice cream parlor wherein the flavors you don't get to choose gets stuck in the freezer till he comes back for it or another customer comes along and asks for it! Tsk...tsk...
The conversation turned from bad to worse when GUY regained some of his composure back and told me, I don't even have a boyfriend to show for to be able to judge his relationship with BABE (which I admit, it's very true and kinda hit me bitter cold) but COMMON FRIEND sort of unintentionally came to my rescue and retorted back. "How low can you go? Buking na buking na, hihirit pa!"
That was a relief but still I had to answer because I knew it was totally uncalled for. So I came up with..."I am not denying and never did I ask to be "single" but I KNOW in myself what best suits my situation considering I am LIKE THIS. What's important to me is that I am not oblivious to such things and I am open to anything and everything... good or bad --- with or without a boyfriend or a better half for that matter." (that was my usual mentally recorded response to the question of me being single and unattached --- that was so memorized!!!! LOL!)
touché...
By the time our "debate" ended, it's clear I lost GUY as a friend... it's only a matter of time when I might lose BABE too but with that big load already out in the open, (at least to GUY for now, and I have already issued a warning at that.) I can't help feeling relieved despite feeling a bit of regret over losing a friend.
I could only hope GUY does the right thing even if we don't get to be friends anymore after all this. (Despite, this two-timing issue, I still consider GUY as one of the good guys as it is a given that guys in general tend to "stray" away from time to time... FLINGS and what else comes...)
WE ALL KNOW DOING THE RIGHT THING ISN'T ALWAYS EASY....
I'm still trying to recuperate and I'm bracing myself for the outcome of this decision --- the aftermath of whatever GUY 's next move would be....
Earlier that day, I had doubts about going through with my plans (about confronting GUY) but I cannot and do not want to lie and cover up for him anymore, BABE is a friend of mine and as a woman I wouldn't want any friend of mine to be an accessory to covering for a two timing b-----d GUY turned out to be. (Excuse my language, but b-----d fits GUY to a T right now.) Bunny and Sam tried to talk me out of it, said it wasn't any of my business (yep, it's totally opposite what they told me the other day... but I understand --- that they only wanted me to be on the safe side.)
I told them, I wasn't going to do anything that drastic yet... the worst I could do right now is not talk to GUY anymore and just go straight to BABE and tattle tale EVERYTHING (COMMON FRIEND has all the evidence in his cell and also his personal account with both GUY and BABE 2, so I had major backup on everything that serves proof.) but as I am also a friend of GUY, I want him to have the benefit of the doubt and a one time chance to clean up his "mess"
After I've talked to the girls, 30 minutes or so later Oli calls! (I knew my girlfriends are worried but I never thought they are THAT worried to even call Oli to talk to me! (LOL!) Considering the fact that Oli and I are not that close anymore as we were before. (due to time and distance factors in the last decade or so) We are still in the process of getting back to where we left off I guess. It will still take time of course.) I had the notion that he's going to discourage me too but he didn't... he was more neutral--- weighed out the pros and cons with me which I already mentally did days before Friday came.
He also said, I was trying to be a "good friend" --- honest and brave even --- but I should be forewarned that as good as my intentions are, I am also in the verge of losing a friend or both friends in the process.... not to mention the cause of their break-up. He's right and I knew that... I guess it's the price I'm going to have to live with for now or if not for the rest of my life. (It can't get any more dramatic than this!) Oli really wanted to come over but he was in a middle of a shift when he called me during a break. It's going to be a long drive (about 350+ miles ) and I rather let him rest than doing so. But our talk made me a little better if not completely. It affirmed my resolve even more than before. THANKS FRIEND!
COMMON FRIEND and I arrived at our meeting place an hour early then scheduled. COMMON FRIEND jokingly said if I change my mind, I still have an hour left to back out! (LOL!) Honestly, I'm not really scared of talking to GUY face-to-face about it.... BUT I AM SCARED of losing friends and that applies to anybody I consider a friend. I'm nervous yes! (I admit drinking black coffee while waiting might have magnified my nervousness a bit.) who wouldn't be nervous.
GUY arrived early with a big smile on his face. (I saw total innocence. He probably thought this is just one of those casual hello's from friends... I totally wished it was...) After the usual greetings and literally asking what's up with you? Blah... blah... blah... I decided to start with the subject at hand --- cold and fast as much as possible so I could assess the quickest initial reaction whether it be facial or verbal before he lies or possibly deny it altogether.
My first "attack" was when I asked him "How much do you love BABE?" GUY laughed and answered that he loves her very much and then a split-second later suddenly had this uneasy questioning look on his face. COMMON FRIEND goes ahead and passes him his phone and GUY saw "everything" we had on him. His face gradually changed from normal to worried and then fear when he saw the video of him and BABE 2 kissing in broad daylight taken most recently (the a couple of days before Friday I think, COMMON FRIEND had impeccable timing getting evidence LOL! I would have thought he stalked GUY a lot. But I guess that an advantage for me at that moment )
GUY was in shock--- horrified even... at least his eyes told the truth because he denied he has / had a standing relationship with BABE 2, he admitted they're friends. Of course, COMMON FRIEND and I were skeptical and COMMON FRIEND even sarcastically joked about GUY and BABE 2 being SEXUALLY ATTACHED FRIENDS which was already an understatement to us considering his initial reaction and we haven't really directly said anything yet. We just showed him what we know.
And if that wasn't enough confirmation from GUY... luck was on our side because after the shock settled itself out, and if I may add, denying it... he asked us "How much does BABE know?" I told him BABE doesn't know anything yet BUT if nothing good comes out of my being there, talking to him first... I'LL DEFINITELY TELL ON HIM.... SERIOUSLY. No IF's... No BUT's.... NO NOTHING!
I knew he was annoyed at us for "meddling"... probably mad too but he probably thought the odds are against him. "So what do you expect me to do?" GUY had the nerve to ask! (GRRRRRRRR!!!!) I told him, that's his decision, the bottom line, HE HAS TO STOP.
I don't really care if he breaks up with BABE... because in my opinion GUY doesn't deserve BABE. As far as I know, BABE has her "faults" including being the jealous type" and maybe being demanding at times but we all know that's normal in any kind of relationship but it's inexcusable to "fiddle" back and forth two women much like choosing ice cream flavors at an ice cream parlor wherein the flavors you don't get to choose gets stuck in the freezer till he comes back for it or another customer comes along and asks for it! Tsk...tsk...
The conversation turned from bad to worse when GUY regained some of his composure back and told me, I don't even have a boyfriend to show for to be able to judge his relationship with BABE (which I admit, it's very true and kinda hit me bitter cold) but COMMON FRIEND sort of unintentionally came to my rescue and retorted back. "How low can you go? Buking na buking na, hihirit pa!"
That was a relief but still I had to answer because I knew it was totally uncalled for. So I came up with..."I am not denying and never did I ask to be "single" but I KNOW in myself what best suits my situation considering I am LIKE THIS. What's important to me is that I am not oblivious to such things and I am open to anything and everything... good or bad --- with or without a boyfriend or a better half for that matter." (that was my usual mentally recorded response to the question of me being single and unattached --- that was so memorized!!!! LOL!)
touché...
By the time our "debate" ended, it's clear I lost GUY as a friend... it's only a matter of time when I might lose BABE too but with that big load already out in the open, (at least to GUY for now, and I have already issued a warning at that.) I can't help feeling relieved despite feeling a bit of regret over losing a friend.
I could only hope GUY does the right thing even if we don't get to be friends anymore after all this. (Despite, this two-timing issue, I still consider GUY as one of the good guys as it is a given that guys in general tend to "stray" away from time to time... FLINGS and what else comes...)
WE ALL KNOW DOING THE RIGHT THING ISN'T ALWAYS EASY....
I'm still trying to recuperate and I'm bracing myself for the outcome of this decision --- the aftermath of whatever GUY 's next move would be....
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